{BFBN Guest Post} Parenting While It Feels Like Our World Is Falling Down

Today is Baby Friendly Blog Network swap day! You can find me at The Journey of Parenthood, with Tips for Road Trips With Kids

I'm so excited to have Emily from, The Journey of Parenthood, guest posting here today. She has been walking through a tough season with her family and I think her perspective is so valuable when it comes to parenting in the middle of a tough season. I hope you will take this post to heart and that it may help you in a current or future season.



We have all experienced sudden, unexpected news. Maybe it's the death of a loved-one. Maybe it's being laid off from a job. Maybe, like in our recent situation, it's having a scary medical diagnosis. During such times it literally feels like the world is crashing down around you. It's hard to focus on anything but the situation at hand. You feel like a zombie, going through the motions of life but unable to really live. But life DOES keep going and kids don't stop needing their parents just because tough stuff is happening. How do you keep on keeping on when it feels hard to even just breathe? Here are some of my tips for how I managed to put my big mama pants on and keep parenting even when I couldn't focus on anything but my husbands health:


1. Count on Your Village: It's easy to be hard on yourself and feel like you have to be everything for everyone all of the time. But it's OK to ask for help. You aren't facing this hardship alone and people WANT to help. Let them! If people offer to bring food, let them bring it. If they offer to take the kids for a few hours, let them. Even if you don't feel like you NEED food or NEED a break, allowing others to help is a blessing to them too. And you'll be pleasantly surprised at how yummy food you don't cook yourself will taste ;) 

2. Be Honest with Your Children: We all want our children to know as little pain as possible. We'd love to keep them in a bubble for their whole lives and protect them from any possible hurt. But kids can tell when something is off. I had a day or two where I literally just couldn't stop crying. Even if I felt fine tears were just constantly flowing down my cheeks. You can't hide that! Our children are young (7, 4, and 2 1/2) but we still sat them down and told them (in simple terms) what is going on. It has been precious to see them pray for Daddy and by being honest and open about everything they have a better understanding of why we are eating healthier and why we are spending less money etc. Tough times can be HUGE learning experiences for our children and opportunities to draw closer as a family unit. (You can see my post on helping children cope with emotional "tough stuff" here)

3. Communicate to Teachers: It's important to communicate big life changes with everyone involved in your children's lives. I emailed each teacher and filled them in on what is going on with our family. Not only did this allow them to keep an eye out for any issues our children may be having in coping, but it also bought me a lot of grace. In my zombie-like state I forgot one kids homework one day, another kids book bag another day. It happens. It's okay. And by having that support system I knew they understood and weren't judging me for my absent mindedness. 

4. Let It Go: I am usually pretty hardcore about my kids' appearances at school. Cute matching outfits, hair bows, etc. Same with healthy lunches. I pack a lunch every day for my son and take pride in giving him a healthy variety in his lunch box. Y'all. It's okay not to be Super Mom. So what if my four year old looked like a rag a muffin for a few weeks at school? Who cares if I just let my son buy lunch? Let go of the little things. You don't have to let them go forever, but give yourself grace and let small things slide for awhile. 

5. Take Care of YOU: You cannot pour from an empty cup. You have to take care of yourself in order to be able to care for anyone else. Carve out time in your day just for you. I'm thankful my kids are so scheduled as I knew I'd have from 1-4:30 everyday to myself. Sometimes I'd cry. Sometimes I'd get mad and need to just be mad. Sometimes I'd just need a LONG nap. Or, let's be real, sometimes I'd just need some good old emotional binge eating ;) All of that is okay. Make time for yourself. Allow yourself to feel and cope and work through any emotions you have. Even if they feel silly. I know I had a day where I kept saying out loud "I can't do this" over and over. I felt dumb saying it because I knew I WILL handle it. It WILL be okay. But in that moment I just needed to feel helpless. I got it out and was able to adapt to my new normal quicker because I allowed myself those moments of weakness. Through our times of weakness, we are better able to find our strength. 

6. Have Prayer Warriors: The power of prayer is the real deal. In tough times it's often hard to pray for yourself. It's tough to find those words and hard to work through the emotional pain to find the blessings God has for you even in those hard moments. That's where prayer warriors come in. I could literally FEEL the prayers being lifted for us. It helped give me peace and helped me feel less alone. Pray. Let your children pray. Let others pray. 

Whatever you may be facing, you are strong enough to handle it. One week after we got the news about my husbands health, I was in the shower and realized I was JUST showering. I wasn't thinking through our possible future. I wasn't worrying about money or medical needs. I was just showering. As humans we are so blessed with the ability to adapt and we adapt so quickly. Allow yourself time to accept whatever new reality you are facing and understand that just going through the motions of parenting is okay. Lean on your family and allow whatever hardships you are facing to bring you closer together. 

Emily is a mother of 3 (ages 7, 4, and 2 1/2) and is in the process of adopting baby 4! You can visit her at www.journeyofparenthood.com

Hi! I'm Carrie! I like to drink Earl Grey Tea, watch Gilmore Girls, hang out with my man, read a good, suck-you-in fiction book, play with my babies, take long bubble baths, and learn about Jesus. Connect with me on Facebook for even more Wiley Adventures!

Family Pictures - Fall 2016

We had a Fall photo shoot a few weeks ago with our friend Jennifer and I'm SO LOVING how the pictures turned out. I can't stop looking at them and I can't decide which ones are my favorites.

Kyle requested a cotton field setting as a little nostalgia to our West Texas upbringings and I think it was the perfect backdrop for our pics!

I have to tell you what a miracle worker this sweet friend is. Archer fussed THE WHOLE TIME. He is not normally a fussy baby and not one I honestly had worried about, but he was not happy about adjusting his dinner time that evening. So I had no idea what to expect when I got the pictures because he was so cranky. I am absolutely amazed! Way to go Jen, you're a rockstar!

Enjoy! (and help me pick a favorite!)

































Hi! I'm Carrie! I like to drink Earl Grey Tea, watch Gilmore Girls, hang out with my man, read a good, suck-you-in fiction book, play with my babies, take long bubble baths, and learn about Jesus. Connect with me on Facebook for even more Wiley Adventures!

{BFBN Week: Myths} How To Make Babywise Possible With multiple Children

I think this Babywise week has been my favorite yet as the bloggers in the Babywise network have addressed the myths and misconceptions associated with Babywise.

I laughed a little when I read Emily's post because I had such similar experiences with my babies with people telling me it wouldn't work with multiple kids.  I love this post and think you will too!

"Then I got pregnant with my second baby. And SO MANY PEOPLE said "well you can kiss that schedule goodbye with two kids." So I proved them wrong. Baby 2: Babywise Baby 2. Then I got pregnant with my third and again laughter and jokes about scheduling being impossible with a third baby. And here we are. Baby 3: Babywise Baby 3.

I think the reason people assume Babywise scheduling isn't possible with multiple children is because we do tend to "slack" more the more kids we have. You have to! Your life can't revolve around one child because you have more than one child. I'm here to say though that you don't have to veer off course just because you have more than one child under your roof! I'm living proof of it :)"



Be sure and check back every day this week as our bloggers take a closer look at the myths often associated with Babywise!

Hi! I'm Carrie! I like to drink Earl Grey Tea, watch Gilmore Girls, hang out with my man, read a good, suck-you-in fiction book, play with my babies, take long bubble baths, and learn about Jesus. Connect with me on Facebook for even more Wiley Adventures!

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